The Positive Twist

The Positive Twist, week 2, ways to become happier

By Lori Spensieri of “Eh! Be Positive” and “30 Days to Happy”

The Moto of “Eh! Be Positive” and “30 Days to Happy” is “The sun is always shining from Behind the Clouds”. This is what Positive Peeps keep in mind every day.

Week 2 of  “30 Days to Happy”

Week 2 represents “Day 2” in the “30 days to Happy” book that is coming out soon in books stores.

The title of this chapter is “The Positive Twist”. This is a strategy with which some people have great skill.  At the same time equally large number are absolutely terrible.

Week 1 – “What is your happiness?” can be found here. Starts here and then move ahead to day 2.

HOW DO YOU TEND TO HANDLE NEGATIVE SITUATIONS?

There are many “bad” things that may happen to us that force us to ask such questions as,“Why me?” or “Why do bad things happen to good people?”

The answer is simple. Things, both good and bad happen to all of us. The difference between people is how one looks at what has happened.

When a person experiences something negative, losing their cell phone, for instance, he or she has a variety of options with regard to the possible reaction. He or she can do one of the following:

  1. Get upset. Tell everyone what happened, looking for sympathy. Complain and complain but eventually get a new phone begrudgingly.
  2. Simply accept that the phone is misplaces and then take the necessary steps to replace it. It is what it is. Things come and go.
  3. See the loss of the phone as an opportunity to get a new and improved model that you have been wanting. Imagine that the person who found it really needed it. See the situation as positively as possible.

Click here to find a link to the book “10 Ways to Happy” for more happy tips and tricks.

Which option do you think leads to the most happiness?

THERE IS ALWAYS A SILVER LINING

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When these things happen, one must remember that there is always a silver lining. There is always a benefit. It may not seem immediately evident, although with some effort one will get better and better at seeing the good.  Here are 8 possible mishaps that could happen in your life:

  1. Getting Dumped
  2. Getting fired from a job.
  3. Getting a speeding ticket.
  4. Getting a cold or flu
  5. Gaining a few Lbs.
  6. Having a friend give up on you
  7. Being diagnosed with a mental illness.
  8. You are running to get to the bus and you trip and fall.

This strategy involves taking a bad situation and looking at it from different angles or perspectives. This is in hopes of finding a silver lining, a lesson or something positive. In every bad situation, there must be something positive to take away.

This useful strategy can be applied on a daily basis as things happen to us. There are two ways to use this.

Have a few Happy thought handy….just in case.

STRATEGY USE #1

Have a series of “Happy Ideas” or “Warm Thoughts” ready to repeat if something adverse happens:

Be this happy!

Here are a few for you to use.

  1. Everything happens for a reason.
  2. This too shall pass.
  3. It will work out in the end.
  4. Everything could be much worse.
  5. I will learn from this.
  6. If it does not kill me, it makes me stronger.
  7. God doesn’t give me more than I can handle.
  8. I got this.
  9. I am strong and I can get through anything.
  10. Positive thoughts and energy are more powerful than negative thought and energy.

STRATEGY USE #2

Tailor your thoughts to the situation at hand.

When something happens to you that is not pleasant, decide how this may actually be  benefitting you.

HOW DO I USE THE POSTIVE TWIST?

HERE is that same list of 8 possible mishaps that could happen to any of us. See our suggestion of how each COULD actually lead good things. 

1) Getting dumped

It’s painful when it happens. One person in a relationship stops feeling the same about the other. He or she decides to end the relationship. The person left alone, not by choice, has an opportunity to be strong and brave. He or she will see that there is someone for them. There is someone more suitable, perhaps a soul mate out there. The short-term pain, will render long-term happiness…. only later on. 

2) Getting Fired From your Job.

Losing a job scan feel devastating. It can feel like one has lost control of his or her life. One must remember, everything happens for a reason. A better job or opportunity is near. Perhaps losing the job is allowing for more freedom and time. 

3) Getting a Speeding Ticket or Experiencing an Accident.

Getting a ticket feels terrible. It feels like a slap on the wrist. It is. It is a reminder that we have rules in place. These rules protect us. These rules provide safety, stability, and predictability. Getting a ticket , well annoying as it is, it shows that the system works. 

4) Catching a cold or flu

We never stop. We work hard. We chase kids around. We do housework. We don’t sleep enough and a lot of the time we aren’t eating nutritionally sound options. Getting a cold or flu forces us to stop. It forces us to rest, hydrate and slow down. 

5) Gaining a few Unwanted Pounds

When we stop paying attention to our habits there are consequences. At times we become busy. When one notices that one has gained weight it is an indicator of lack of balance. It forces one to pay attention to health. Perhaps ones diet Mist be adjusted or perhaps worse. The thyroid may be malfunctioning, or the endocrine system may be sluggish. Weight gain can be ones first sigh of a problem. 

6) Having a friend give up on you.

Fighting with a friend can be stressful.

Who needs enemies when I have a friend like you? We have heard this saying before. Do you know someone who fits the bill? When we lose a friend we have a chance to reflect on the source of tension or the reason. Some friendships are meant to be saved and some were never meant to exist. 

7) Having a mental illness. 

Being depressed can have a silver lining.

There have been so many studies on positive aspects of having certain mental illnesses. See this link that correlates meant illnesses with positive personality traits. Having generalized anxiety allows me to have a greater sense of empathy towards other people problems. Having OCD helps me be more creative and having ADHD allows me to estimate time more efficiently and accurately.

8) You are running to get to the bus and you trip and fall.

      You didn’t hurt yourself but you feel embarrassed indeed. Remember that everyone falls. We all fall. This is especially true when we rush.  Perhaps there is a benefit hidden in there, somewhere. Perhaps, this fall has taught ‘the fallen’ a lesson about slowing down and being more careful. Perhaps your lesson is that you must get up earlier and hence give yourself more time to get where you are going.  Perhaps after you fall you will be helped up by the man (or woman) of your dreams. There are so many ways to see this differently.

THE SUN IS ALWAYS SHINING BEHIND THE CLOUDS

Cara and I run a Facebook group that is dedicated to positivity. The world is chock-full of sarcasm, judgment, and criticism. We do not aim to fight fire with fire. We aim to kill ‘em with kindness. The tagline that we use is, “The Sun is Always Shining Behind the Clouds”.  When the clouds gather in the sky, they cover the sun. We can’t see the sun any longer. It is still there. No matter how thick that cloud cover is, the sun is still there. It will still be there a million years from now as well. This is fitting in any situation.

Click here to find our Facebook Page.

Click here to find our Facebook Group.

Life can feel very difficult at times. We are faced with challenges daily. We can see each challenge as a cloud. Remember, clouds always clear. They clear, to reveal a powerful, warm, comforting sun. The sun represents your resilience and survival. The sun represents the positive in your life. Even when your life is weighed down by stress, anxiety, challenges, work, etc, the positive is still there and it will return. Just remember that.

Join our facebook group and our Facebook Page. We update daily with positive content, challenges, jokes, articles, strategies and other great stuff.

Quiz – are you a optimist, realist or pessimist. – coming soon.

Thank you for reading our post. Please leave any comments, questions or content suggestions. Remember to see the good in everything and…

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My Black Friday BIG TICKET Christmas List

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** My Big ticket List **

Matthew and Jacob in 2013 duing their first Christmas together. 

I do not usually have a Christmas List, let alone a “BIG TICKET” list…but this year is different. I have chosen six items..just six. These six will change my life and yours. See why. Here is my list:  

1. iRobot Roomba 980 Vacuum Cleaning Robot

2. Microsoft Xbox One X 1TB Console – Xbox One X Edition

3. All-new Sonos One – Smart Speaker with Alexa voice control built-In

4. Nikon D3400 w/AF-P DX NIKKOR 18-55mm f/3.5-5.6G VR & AF-P DX NIKKOR 70-300mm f/4.5-6.3G ED

5. ASUS Chromebook Flip C302CA-DHM4 12.5-Inch Touchscreen Intel Core m3 with 64GB storage and 4GB RAM

6. Samsung Galaxy S9+ Unlocked Smartphone, Titanium Grey (SM-G965WZAAXAC)

There are so many amazing deals on Amazon right now. Whether you are completing some early Christmas/Holiday Shopping or you just want to cross something off of your own “Things I Want” list there are some really awesome deals on some awesome gadgets.

Christmas is coming! Are you ready?

This year I have faced a few obstacles…most of which could have been solved by having more time. There are 24 hours in a day. Since we can not make a day longer (I tried, it is impossible, based on the time-space continuum). The alternative is to free up more hours in the day. Aside from time, simplicity is a mom’s best friend. Keep reading to see what is on my “BIG TICKET CHRISTMAS LIST” and why I want each item.

THE RUNDOWN!

As a mom, I love to take photos of my two boys. We could be just hanging around the house watching television and my younger son will make a priceless expression. Everyday moments become epic photo opportunities. My iPhone takes amazing photos, as long as there is ample light. The Nikon D3400 is user-friendly and offers a number of useful settings. There is a newer version of this camera, although the technology is still cutting edge the price reflects that a newer one exists. This camera is on my Christmas list for sure!

If you would rather go with a smartphone to capture your photos go with the Samsung Galaxy S9. I am usually an “Apple” girl but this phone does so much. All smartphones replace at least 11 pieces of technology: camera, calendar, flashlight, computer, gaming system, calculator, video camera, data files, pager, Television, books and more. Since our phones can do so much, and we are saving so much by not needing all the other gadgets, it makes sense to invest in a great smartphone. The one you chose should have as many features 

The Galaxy is a great option for me, as it takes great low-light photos. I think I will go check this one out. It looks amazing.

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Another item that I think you need to know about is the ASUS Chromebook Flip. My godson started grade 6 this past September. The teachers at his school, and many other schools, are depending more and more on Google-based apps. The Chromebook will make his academic life so much easier. He will be able to access the same Google docs that he is working on at school, at home. His teacher can share docs and slides with him and other people in his group. This is a great tool for a student. Plus it folds into a tablet so it is great for gaming too. An all-in-one awesome gift!

My kids love to play music and dance. We dance almost every day. This is amazing since I barely can find time to exercise, let alone go to a gym. This way we put on YouTube and dance to fortnite videos or mainstream songs while watching the videos. I realized how nice it would be to have a speaker that I can hook up my smartphone o to play my playlist. I pay yearly for apple music. I listen to it in the car but to listen to it at home too would be amazing. I found this all-in-one speaker. It can be used as a speaker in the house. This is amazing too because Alexa is built in as well. She can do all kinds of tasks for me. I love that. The thought of having my own personal assistant sends chills down my spine. The Sonos One has all of the features that I want in a speaker.

If I can’t get Alexa to come to my house and be my assistant, another option is to find a way to keep these kid occupied. Enter the newest Xbox. It is called the Xbox One X. It is a great solution! It has all of the games that kids are going crazy for. It works with the Xbox one games as well. It supports Xbox live and its 40% faster than any other systems. Ok, that sounds amazing. Maybe I can get the kids’ dad to play some NHL 2019 with them and then I can go get a pedicure. Ok, that is wishful thinking…or maybe not.

I will have bought more time for myself by getting the iRobot Roomba. I can picture my Roomba moving about gracefully from room to room making my live better and better. The cat would go for joy rides on it. My mother-in-law would gasp upon entering and tell me how tidy and dustless my home is and how impressed she is. Well, that may actually be a fantasy. One can have a big imagination right. This Roomba is my Robot vacuum of choice as it can move from a carpeted surface to a carpet-free surface. It is smarter than your average Robot Vacuum.

Ok so that’s my Big Ticket Christmas list. Not everything is directly for me persay, although as you can see, I will benefit from each item. My letter to Santa is in the mail and I am just counting down the days. I will be posting a blog about all things “Elf on the Shelf”. We are going to give you so many ideas of “scenarios” in which to place your Elf.

Merry Christmas and Eh! Be Positive

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Week 1: What Makes You Happy?

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What is Happiness to you?

Click here for our previous blog posts about finding happiness.

What makes you smile from ear to ear?

Being on a long awaited vacation with people you love.

Relaxing comfortably with your eyes closed, in a beautiful ski lodge in front of a crackling fire.

Carefree shopping with your best friends, with no spending limit, buying all the brands that you love.

What do all of these statements have in common? Well, first of all, they are all leisure activities, they each have their own charms and they all define happiness to someone. Each of use sees happiness very differently.

Put some thought into it. What is happiness to you?

What is Happiness to you?

What makes you happy? Kids find happiness in simple things. Kids are able to be in the moment. That is the key.

In creating your definition, try to be individual, authentic and honest as possible.

Use this list of rules:

  1. State your definition in the positive. Happiness is __________.
  2. Keep it brief and simple.
  3. Be specific.
  4. Ensure there is something that you can visualize.
  5. Include an aspect for each of the following: Mental wellbeing, physical wellbeing and spiritual wellbeing.

Click here to find the “My Definition of Happiness” printable template.

Happiness can be in unexpected places.

How Can I Be Happier?

We are Cara and Lori Spensieri. We are called “Eh, Be Positive!” and we have created a system called The Spensieri Method for creating and maintaining positivity and happiness in your life. If followed for thirty days, this system will help you feel more optimistic, confident and happier. More information about the book, “30 Days to Happy”can be found by clicking here.

You can get happier today.

We are not medical doctors and we do not claim that this is some magical spell that will automatically make you happier. We want you to make a promise to yourself that you will try to feel better and that you will put forth an honest effort for the challenges presented each day. 

Try to actively follow the steps of each daily performance task. 

WARNING!
Of course, if you feel extremely sad for longer than a couple of weeks, you should talk to someone you trust and tell him or her how you feel.  

Make your own happiness.

INTERESTING TIP: If you find that your feelings of unhappiness are linked to certain times of the year, you may suffer from SAD – Seasonal Affective Disorder. You are not getting enough sunlight. Natural sunlight does carry the most positive effects although some artificial lights at the correct frequencies can work wonders for your mood. Check out this artificial sun light.

What is Happiness to You?

The first step in the Spensieri Method (and first chapter in the book “30 Days to a Happier You”) is called “What is  happiness to you?” All you have to do is write down as fast as you can 10 things that make you happy. It does not matter if they are silly or ridiculous. 

Write down 10 things that make you happy. Just be honest and true to yourself. Try to avoid putting money as the first thing on the list. Here is Cara’s list: 

Cara with Grandma, Jean-Paul and baby nephew Franklyn
  • My little boy
  • My Family (especially Lori)
  • My Students
  • A Delicious Meal
  • Drinking coffee
  • Giving to charity
  • Watching a funny television show (like Big Bang Theory)
  • When my nieces and nephews yell, “CARA!” when I arrive
  • Music
  • Thoughts of my Nonna
  • Achieving a goal

My list is not in any particular order. All you have to do is brainstorm and free-write a list for yourself. It will give you some insight into what floats your boat, what simple things make you feel happy. Here is Lori’s list: 

My family makes me so happy. 
  • My family, and children
  • My students
  • Helping others
  • Learning new things
  • Making a big meal that everyone enjoys
  • Holiday: Christmas, birthdays, Valentines day
  • Love – Click here for our post all about love. 
  • Planning
  • being strong and independent
  • being financially free

CHALLENGE TIME!

This list is your challenge. When you are finished your list, you can enter our “Happiness challenge” by posting your list in the comments section or you can post it on our Facebook Page. 
Thank you for reading and eh, be positive! 

For another great article about keeping your resolutions, click here.  It may be February already but you can still go back and renew the promises that you made to yourself.

My favourite post from 2018 is all about LOVE. You can never give too much love. Click here for that post. You will love it. 

Are You Going to Keep Your Resolutions?

New Years Resolution funny

By Lori Spensieri

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By Lori Spensieri, January 15, 2019

Hey Positive Peeps! So it is 2019. We are three weeks in. Are you a resolution maker? More importantly, are you a resolution keeper? Here at Eh! Be Positive we are big believers of bringing out the best version of “You”. The only standard that you should set should be based on personal improvement and personal betterment. If you are where you want to then change may not necessary. Ask yourself; Am I where I want to be?

Why Do you Tend to Break your Resolutions?

I was perusing Facebook on January 2nd and I came across a post. It said, “Welcome back to all the people who quit Facebook as their new year resolution.” There are two messages in one here. The simple surface message states that Facebook is addictive and it is difficult to quit. It is the deeper meaning that struck me. The alternative message that the post was less likely to be trying to communicate, is that people, in general, are not usually able to keep their resolutions. This is sadly true. Do not fret though. We have a plan for you. Your plan will be to set some goals, some smart goals. See the schematic below.

New year’s resolutions are similar to goals, but there is a major difference. Whereas a resolution is a promise and is more permanent, a goal is something that one aims to accomplish, and once it has been achieved, a new goal can be created.

Anyone who has made a goal in the past and then accomplished it knows about the rewards of perseverance, motivation and a strong will. All of the listed qualities are necessary. When the goal is achieved, there is a celebration and a sense of pride is felt by the goal-achiever. According to David Galloway in  his article “Differentiate between goals and resolutions to aid in Personal Achievement”, the key is to know which changes (you make) in your life should be (considered) attainable goals and which should be (considered) permanent resolutions.

Resolutions vs. Goals

Resolutions are different in that they require more perseverance and
they don’t get “achieved” or “accomplished” and then forgotten. They
introduce a gradual change which is probably harder to observe on a
daily basis. Resolutions are harder to keep because there is no “defining moment” in which you can say that you have won or achieved that goal, but after a month or two, you will feel happier, healthier and proud of yourself for not quitting!

Some Reasonable Resolutions…

We have come up with a list of healthy resolutions (that can be associated with goals that you can set for yourself). These resolutions are meant to be somewhat easier to maintain.

Eat Healthier!

1.       Eat healthier (similar to lose weight). What you want to do is go back to basics. Create one “cheat day” and try to eat relatively healthily the rest of the time. Drink 4 bottles of water per day. Eat fruit and veggies every day. Keep it simple. You can do this! Cut out one “bad food” like french fries or fried food.

Perhaps, you will reduce your coffee or soda consumption.

Exercise!

2.       Exercise more (similar to lose weight). Get more exercise by adding it to your daily schedule. Park further away from the mall or get off the bus 2 stops early and walk. Use your smartphone’s app to track your steps. You should aim for 10 000 steps per day. Use the stairs if you usually use the elevator to go up two or three flights. Take a walk at lunchtime. You will also sleep better at night and have less stress if you move more.

We did a great article post all about eating well and keeping fit. It follows with the 30 days to a happier you system. Click here for all the details.

Lori Getting Her Fitness On!

Reduce that Bad Habit!

3.       Reduce smoking frequency (similar to quit smoking). The ultimate goal, of course, is to quit smoking. However, after some research, I realized that only about 5 percent of people who quit cold turkey actually kick the habit permanently. The gradual cessation of nicotine in the body reduces the stress and the anxiety and improves the odds to 10% (and higher with other aids like the patch or gum).  Quitting is VERY difficult, but reducing is much easier.

Volunteer!

4.       Volunteer. Do you want to feel good about yourself and make a difference? Start with volunteering. Find an organization that works with your schedule. You could pet animals at a shelter, spend time with elderly people at a home, read books to sick kids, shovel snow for the senior couple down the street or spend time at a food bank sorting. Whatever you choose to do, it will definitely have a positive impact on the world and on you!

Save Money!

Saving money is one of the most popular resolutions. You are sure to be unsuccessful without a plan.

5. Save money. Stress and money seem to go hand in hand. Start a modest savings plan in January. Open an account with Tangerine (used to be ING Direct) or with your bank that automatically withdraws money weekly, biweekly or monthly, and by the end of the year, you will have a little extra money. In addition, save money for Christmas or other seasonal spending starting in January. It’s never too early to start saving.

Check out this article. Click here to find 100 ways to save money.

These are my resolutions. What are yours?
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resolutions.
You can post them here on the blog or on our Facebook page.
Good luck and eh, be positive!

Start Now!

Well, it’s a new year. It is the perfect time to start something new,
something that could change your life for the better, something fun and inspiring. Studies show that it takes 14 days of doing a habit to make that behaviour become automatic.

Why not start now?

Why not make a commitment to yourself to be happier?

What do you have to lose?

How Can I Be Happier?

We are Cara and Lori Spensieri. We are called “Eh, Be Positive!” and we have created a system called The Spensieri Method for creating and maintaining positivity and happiness in your life. If followed for thirty days, this system will help you feel more optimistic, confident and happier. More information about the book, “30 Days to a Happier You” can be found by clicking here.

You can get happier today.

We are not medical doctors and we do not claim that this is some magical spell that will automatically make you happier. We want you to make a promise to yourself that you will try to feel better and that you will put forth an honest effort for the challenges presented each day.

Try to actively follow the steps of each daily performance task.

WARNING!
Of course, if you feel extremely sad for longer than a couple of weeks, you should talk to someone you trust and tell him or her how you feel.  

What is Happiness to You?

The first step in the Spensieri Method (and first chapter in the book “30 Days to a Happier You”) is called “What is  happiness to you?” All you have to do is write down as fast as you can 10 things that make you happy. It does not matter if they are silly or ridiculous.

Write down 10 things that make you happy. Just be honest and true to yourself. Try to avoid putting money as the first thing on the list. Here is Cara’s list:

Cara with Grandma, Jean-Paul and baby nephew Franklyn
  • My little boy
  • My Family (especially Lori)
  • My Students
  • A Delicious Meal
  • Drinking coffee
  • Giving to charity
  • Watching a funny television show (like Big Bang Theory)
  • When my nieces and nephews yell, “CARA!” when I arrive
  • Music
  • Thoughts of my Nonna
  • Achieving a goal

My list is not in any particular order. All you have to do is brainstorm and free-write a list for yourself. It will give you some insight into what floats your boat, what simple things make you feel happy. Here is Lori’s list:

My family makes me so happy.
  • My family, and children
  • My students
  • Helping others
  • Learning new things
  • Making a big meal that everyone enjoys
  • Holiday: Christmas, birthdays, Valentines day
  • Love – Click here for our post all about love.
  • Planning
  • being strong and independent
  • being financially free

CHALLENGE TIME!

This list is your challenge. When you are finished your list, you can enter our “Happiness challenge” by posting your list in the comments section or you can post it on our Facebook Page.
Thank you for reading and eh, be positive!

For another great article about keeping your resolutions, click here.

My favourite post from 2018 is all about LOVE. You can never give too much love. Click here for that post. You will love it.

Boxing your Way Through The Day (of Deals)…

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Boxing Day sales – A bunch of great steals or just a load of crappy deals? We are consumers, yes… and we all admit that Christmas has become very consumeristic… is that a word? I digress. But is “Boxing Day” a real day of deals or a giant scam? Well, whatever the answer is, there will be black-Friday-esque shopping madness in all the shopping malls. People wait for this particular day to shop for certain items. But… are all items a good deal? Don’t fall for the tricks that stores use to get you to buy… right now. 

5 Tricks That Stores Use To Get You To Buy Today… on Boxing Day ! 

  • Limited supply…and other catchphrases that trick you into thinking that this is a “once-in-a-lifetime” opportunity. Other phrases used include; ‘Fire Sale’, ‘Sale ends in X-minutes’, ‘Tomorrow will be too late’, ‘Last Chance Sale’, ‘Going Fast’, ‘Get them before they’re gone!’, ‘In-Store Only’, ‘For First 50 Customers Only’, ‘Door Crashers’ …these are all pressure tactics.
  • “Special Sales” or VIP Sales. These are often false advertising…or close to it. There is a price pattern or system. The prices are ‘Regular’ until Black Friday. There is usually some indication of limited supply. Three weeks before Christmas the prices go back up to the “Regular” price. About a week later the prices go down for a “Christmas Sale” then back up… to milk the last-minute shoppers who are often desperate. Then the Boxing Day sale brings prices to the same price from the Christmas Sale. This is a specific formula.
  • Bait and switch, or just bait. You are looking at the flier and you see an item that you must own. This great deal lures you in. Little did you know that each store only had 3. But, to your amazement, they have a whole bunch of the slightly more expensive model. How convenient.  
  • Keep the doors barely open, with security guards and long line. This creates a sense of FOMO. Fear of Missing Out. If this store can attract such a ruckus, then there must be something amazing to see. The security gives a sense of there being “expensive merchandise”. Do not fall for this. If you would normally walk right by this place, do not let a line up make you change your behaviour.
  • Place small, inexpensive items right by the cash. These are placed strategically as a form of a small up-sell. Again, the list comes in handy at this point. Stick to the list. Keep it in your hand.

Ok so now you have decided to go shopping. You are daring to venture out into the crazy clearance sale blitz. You now know the tricks that retailers use. you are not going to be manipulated. You are a brave one indeed. Ok, so here are some rules to help your trip lead to serious deal finding and no brutal breakdowns. 

Careful. Not eveything is as good a sale as it may seem.

5 Rules for Boxing Day Shopping Success. 

  1. Have a list and stick to it. Make sure the list is specific and organized… Include the stores to visit, the item specifications and the price point.
  2. Go early or don’t go at all. Go 30 minutes before the store or mall opens. This will assist in finding parking, door crasher deals and crowds will be minimized.
  3. Leave your coat in the car. Crowds create body heat. Carrying your coat will feel cumbersome and it may cause you to make a bad decision in order to hasten the trip.
  4. Look it up before you buy. Once you find the item that you want, look it up on your phone. See if it is indeed a good deal.
  5. Stay at home and order online. Shopping Boxing Day in your underwear at home is bliss. You can get many of the same deals at home as in the store. Some deals are actually better. Be sure to look up coupon or discount codes before checkout.
Even Peppa Pig and her family love to shop…just not on Boxing Day.

Ok.. you are equipped with a list. You have plotted out the best place to park for easy entrance and exit from a potentially packed parking lot. You have set your alarm for bright and early and your phone is fully charged for deal surfing before purchase…now 2 top-5 lists to help you more easily discriminate the food deals from the frugal flops;

5 Things People Buy on Boxing Day … That is a Good Deal

  • Cell phones (on a contract) 
  • Tablets – new, used, refurbished .. they are all on super sale 
  • Winter coats and boots 
  • Christmas decorations, sweaters, ornaments and 
  • Novelty items from last season (Disney, toys, lego sets etc) 

5 things people gets scammed on, on Boxing Day… and is not a good deal 

  • Desktop computers 
  • Televisions sets 
  • Clothing that is not seasonal- athletic shoes, pyjamas 
  • Licences athletic wear and jerseys 
  • Flowers and consumables 
Some deals are actually amazing!

Ok everyone if you’re not heading out for Boxing Day, keep in mind that Boxing Day usually extends to boxing week. Oh and if there is something that you wanted and you didn’t get it from Santa, try asking for it for Valentine’s Day, then Easter, your birthday, st. Patrick’s day and every other holiday that you can think of. Best of luck sale slayers! Let us know how it goes! Have a great week and Eh! Be Positive. 

Christmas Here, Christmas There

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Christmas Everywhere!

See our “5 Days of Giving” blogs from 2017. Each day was dedicated to giving in a different way.

Day 1 – Click here for our blog on Donating Non-perishable foods.

Day 2 – Click here for our blog on leaving random happy messages or notes for strangers or friends. 

Day 3 – Click here for our blog on donating blood. There are many car accidents at this time of year. Unfortunately, the blood bank often runs our of the rare blood types. 

Day 4 – Click here for our blog on donating lightly used clothing. 

Day 5 – Click here for our blog on giving LOVE. Love is the single most important gift that you can give or receive. 


Image of family at christmas
Jacob and Matthew in 2013 with their Aunt Cristina.

All Things Christmas..all week!

All week we will be focusing on all things Christmas. So, the question stands, what does this mean to you? We see, from the blog links above, that Christmas involves many types of giving, but it can also involve a lot of stress and anxiety.  Christmas can bring out feelings in people that they have been burying deep down. When a family does not have a lot of money, it can be disheartening to find that there is not enough money to provide one’s children with all of the items that he or she wants. There is always a toy that is the big thing of the year. Every child wants this item. Arnold Schwarzenegger showed us the pain some parents experience in trying to find that coveted item when the time is of the essence. 

All week we will be attempting to focus on all things Christmas and all things positive. We are all aware of the stresses involved with shopping and rushing and keeping up with the Joneses. Let’s all repeat this 10 times. 

“Christmas is about family spending time together. Christmas is about Love and Kindness. Christmas is about helping and giving and sharing. Christmas is a blessing. 

Shopping Stress…

How to have a stress-free shopping experience..even last minute.

  1. Make a list. Be as specific as possible. First, write down each person’s name that you are left to buy for. Beside their name write the gift you intend to buy. Write in the next column the store where it can be found. Format this list like a checklist.
  2. Shop online for anything that is available online. A lot can be delivered the following day, by Amazon Prime or other stores as well. 
  3. Go Alone or with a helper. Go alone if you are very efficient on your own. If you prefer to go with someone, bring someone whom you know will be an asset and a benefit to your shopping endeavors. 
  4. Map it out. Plan out where you will park, and the order of stores at which you will shop to find your items.  
  5. Keep it short. One hour to 90 minutes is ample for one shopping trip. Longer trips require bathroom trips, rests etc. 
  6. Bring refreshments. Staying hydrated is very important. Bring a bottle of water.
  7. Gift cards, gift cards, gift cards. When in doubt, buy a gift card. Everyone loves gift cards. They are also very easy to wrap.
  8. Breathe and remember that Christmas is about Family and Togetherness. Focus on the children’s’ gifts and the rest is secondary.

Click here for an article with an interesting perspective about the commercialism that Christmas has become. We all have to get back to the true purpose of Christmas. 

Weekly Challenge…

The Challenge, on this final week before Christmas, has 2 parts;

a) Post of photo of you and your family celebrating everything Christmas, or the holiday that you celebrate at this time of year…post this on the Eh! Be Positive Facebook group

b) Like and Share the Merry Christmas Post in the Eh! Be Positive    Facebook Page.Facebook Page.


Have a great week. Remember it is all about Christmas. Try to find time to take it all in; the lights, the sounds, the smells and of course the tastes! Take care of yourself and your families…and remember Eh! Be Positive. 

Love Makes the World Go Round!

Do you want to know how to be happier?

Do you want to know how to feel healthier?

Do you want to know how to be more successful?

The answer is so simple.

Here it is…

The answer is…

Do everything with Love. This is the Law of Love…A universal law. When you live your life, with love in your heart, your life is better.

It is that simple.

How do I do this? It is easier than you think.

Whatever it is that you are doing…Follow these steps:

  • Start by smiling. Always smile.
  • Imagine your heart being full. Visualize your soul radiating and shining with light. Feel the warmth. This will take only a few seconds. The more you practice this the easier it gets.
  • As you interact with each person silently say, “I love you.” As you say it, feel it. Every time.
  • Take that love and surround each person that you encounter, with this love.

When someone is being unkind to you, send them love.

When someone is not feeling well, instead of just sympathysing, send them prayers of love.

When you are angry with someone or someone is angry with you, imagine wrapping that person in love.

This may not always be easy.

But, as I always say, nothing worthwhile is easy.

What is Love?

Love is hard to define. It is an emotion. Love is energy.

Some sceintists and philosophers have argued that love does not actually exist. According to these cynics, love is something created by hormones and perceived differently by each. Does this matter I ask. As humans, we perceive everything differently. Each of us may look at the same green leaf. Some of us will see that leaf as darker or richer in hue. That does not change the reality of existence of this leaf. Love is felt differently by each of us. Something that tailors itself specifically for each of us. Now, that is special. That is something to be coveted and protected.

Love.

That feeling that you get inside your chest, when someone you love is around. Those butterflies in the pit of your stomach. That is energy. Those “good vibes” that you sense when someone that admires you is around. That is love.

Love is the beginning of everything.

The next time you have a challenge to overcome, think about how you can use love to overcome it.

Love and Physics

The law of thermodynamics says that energy can not be created nor destroyed. It simply changes form. Since love is energy, this law applies to love as well. There is intense energy in every strong emotion. That is why they say that Love and Hate are very close. They are side by side with regard to the level of energy involved and intensity. See the diagram below. See the diagram below. It demonstrates the following concept: as the intensity of the emotion goes up it can cause either love or hate…depending on the quality of the emotion (positive or negative). 

The Types of Love

Ok I will apologize in advance. My teacher side is about to come out in full force. I am going to define the different types of love. You may have noticed that we use the term Love when describing our feelings toward a significant other, our children, our siblings and our parents. We can love a friend, or a neice or nephew. It isn’t all the same kind of love. That would be creepy to say the least. Here are the types of love, for conversation sake:

Accdording to Psychology Today there are seven tyoes of love. To summarize these as briefly as possible:

  • Eros – Sexual or passionate love
  • Philia – love toward a friend
  • Storge – the intense love of a parent for it’s child
  • Agape – Universal love – for strangers, nature, animals etc.
  • Ludus – the love involved in flirting, dancing, casual romance.
  • Pragma – Practical love founded on reason or duty.
  • Philautia – Self love – can be healthy or unhealthy

The full article where this information was pulled from can be found here.

Lastly to end on a Positive Note…

10 Ways to Find More Love in your Life!

  1. Smile as much as possible. You will feel happier. The joy and happiness that you feel will allow you to literally radiate. You will ooze love and love will be returned.
  2. Give complements and do it sincerely. Everyone appreciates being told that they are good at something or that they look well rested. This will cause the receiver to emit a positive energy.
  3. Tell the people that you love, that you love them. They will tell you in return.
  4. Show the people that you love, that you love them. Actions speak louder than words.
  5. Be kind to others around you, even strangers. Kindness and love will be returned.
  6. Spend time with children. Children have a whimsical way of seeing the good in others. They sense positive vibes and love. They also give love more freely.
  7. Listen to romantic and loving music. Music connects very closely with our emotions, especially if you combine it with another sense.
  8. Make time for love. Carve our time to spend with someone you love. Spend quality time with your children. Talk to your relatives.
  9. Use the word love often. If you talk about, you think about it. If you think about you will bring it about.
  10. Watch Television shows and films that feature love. You energy flows where your attention goes. If you pay attention to love, move will appear.

One Last thing…

As you may or may not know, I am Catholic. In fact, I am a Catholic High School Teacher. I am very spiritual although I would not classify myself as highly religious. What I believe is that everyone should be kind to each other. We should be accepting of each other differences and most of all, we should have love in our hearts for ourselves and each other. That may sound cliché or corny but its true. There is no room for anger, jealousy, hate or competition when we will ourselves up with love. With that being said, I want to share a beautiful passage from the new testament. It is often used in wedding ceremonies and funerals. It talks of love as being something so vitally important. That is why I love it so much. It demonstrates that there is no room for pain and negativity once love is present.

“If I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, but do not have love, I have become a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. If I have the gift of prophecy, and know all mysteries and all knowledge; and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. And if I give all my possessions to feed the poor, and if I surrender my body to be burned, but do not have love, it profits me nothing.

Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered, does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

Love never fails…But now faith, hope, love, abide these three; but the greatest of these is love.” From 1 Corinthians 13:1-8, 13

I was to sincerely thank you for reading my blog. It means a lot to me that you took the time to read about my favourite topics to write about. Love is so important. I hope you see what I see. Your life will be so much more meaningful.

I love Coffee and Cookies…not the same love that I have for my chidlren..but love nonetheless.

Have a great day and Eh! Be Positive

Check out the details of my book, “10 Ways to Happy”. Click here for details. 

Be Afraid. Be Very Afraid.

The theme this week is “Fears and Phobias”. We all have fears to face in life. Even your friend who says that he or she is afraid of nothing. We all have something of which we are afraid.

Fear – an increase in the level of stimulation causing both physical reactions (increased perspiration and muscle tremors) and psychological reactions (racing thoughts, self-doubt and thoughts of impending harm). At it’s worst, a fear can enable a ‘fight or flight’ response. This is a very natural human response to feeling threatened. We either get ready to fight and defend or flee. The last option is to freeze up. This is innate and goes way back to early human existence.

Fears are usually grounded in the rational. In other words, we usually have some reason to be afraid of the thing in question.

E.g., I am afraid of spiders because I was bitten by one while camping when I was little. It really hurt and took a long time to heal.

E.g., I am afraid of airplanes because the last time I was on one there was a lot of turbulence. The flight attendants looked scared too which made me really worried.

This is different from a phobia.

Phobia – an intense fear not rooted in the rational. These can lead to very intense reactions similar to that of a fear response noted above including the ‘fight or flight’ response. The main difference between a fear and a phobia is that the phobias do not usually have a rational reason to exist.

E.g., I am afraid of spiders. They are small and I have never been hurt by one…but I am still deathly afraid of them.

E.g., I am afraid to go on an airplane. The likelihood of a plane crash is very low. Air travel has come a long way and it is deemed very safe. The security measures are more than sufficient. All that being said, I break into a cold sweat on the thought of an airport!

E.g., I am afraid of spaghetti. It makes my skin crawl and I can’t even watch someone eat it. Sometimes I can’t go to certain restaurants if they serve spaghetti on the menu.

All humans have some sort of fear. Not all humans suffer from phobias. Phobias can be crippling and can have negative effects on one’s life. Having a phobia is usually co-morbid with other psychological conditions although they can exist on their own.

Do you have any fears or phobias?

Please share your experience with us.

Here are two links connected to this post; Please click here for an article in Psychology Today’s Articles about Phobias. 

Click here for a link to Healthline’s website page that focusses specifically on phobias. 

The Challenge – Week of November 26th. 

Are you ready? Here we go! Your challenge is to guess what fear is involved with each phobia listed below. No Cheating OK!

  1. Arachnophobia
  2. Agliophobia
  3. Bibliophobia
  4. Dementophobia
  5. Melissophobia
  6. Noctiphobia
  7. Frigophobia
  8. Leukophobia
  9. Gamophobia
  10. Agrizoophobia

Whoever gets the most correct will win the “Happy Pack”. Have your answers in by noon on Sunday, December 2nd!

You can do it! You have nothing to lose.

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Please let any comments, and feedback. All is welcome.

BE AFRAID. BE VERY AFRAID – PART 2

Everyone is afraid of something. Sometimes these fears are grounded in a rational motive in preserving one’s health (like avoiding a bad habit like smoking out of fear of cancer). Other times, these fears are not grounded by rational thinking; rather they exist within the realm of irrational thought.  One may be afraid of mice, because they are small and creepy crawly. This fear is not based on the diseases that mice potentially carry or the fact that mice can bring down the value of one’s home. These would be rational reasons.

Moreover, when one has a fear that is based in the irrational realm and it is long-standing, causes severe anxiety or negatively affects how one lives one’s life, then that becomes a problem. This can become a phobia.

One can learn to face their fears (and phobias) and overcome them. Once a fear has been defeated, it will no longer hinder the formerly afflicted person from achieving life goals.

This may not seem like a new or ground-breaking idea but consider a person who has a fear of speaking to those in authority. This will keep the person from going to job interviews or speaking to his or her superior, hence never moving upward in the world.

Some common ways of overcoming fears include:

  1. Exposure – in small increments, the fearful puts the feared item in close proximity. Each time he or she will be close to the item for long periods of time and then eventually the person must touch the feared item. While seeing and touching the feared item he or she must use strategies to remain calm. Eventually, the stress response reduces and over time the fear will too.
  2. Hypnosis. There are various recorded hypnosis products that promise to help the reader/listener to overcome common fears.
  3. Talk Therapy. This method involves talking to either a professional or a friend (who is willing to listen objectively) about the experienced fear. The hope is that through the conversation, coping strategies can be realized and fear can be reduced through rational thinking.

Face your fears and remember to Eh! Be Positive.

10 Ways to Happy…the Book

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So you have taken the first step to become happier. You have noticed that You have decided that your happiness is a priority. The only person that is going to be able to make you happier is you. Start today. There are so many ways to find more happiness in your life. This book contains 10 tried and true tricks for finding happiness.

The keys to happiness are available to everyone and anyone. It all starts with 3 simples things: 

  1. Accept yourself the way you are…and be YOURSELF…ALWAYS
  2. Be in the moment. Stay out of the past and don’t worry about the future. All you have is NOW.
  3. Follow the golden rule of being kind to others. 
Cara and Lori, of Eh! Be Positive, smiling and feeling happy. 

There are many things that people do, in an attempt to try to feel better but they are unsuccessful. Some tricks actually can be damaging and make the trickster even less happy. See the list below.

10 Things that will not make you happier…

  1. buying expensive clothing and electronics
  2. pretending to be something you are not
  3. lying about or exaggerating about your accomplishments
  4. competing with others to be “best” at something
  5. doing a job that you hate
  6. spending time with people you do not like…because they are popular
  7. Following a dream that someone else has for you
  8. Avoiding risks
  9. Being untrue to your own beliefs
  10. Ignoring your instincts
The Keys to happiness and the keys to reducing unhappiness are all here!

Do you find yourself committing any of these grave mistakes? The good thing is that you can simply stop today. You can stop these habits that are taking away your happiness and begin the habits that bring more happiness. 

Last but not least, on this cold Black Friday, always feel grateful…       and…Eh! Be positive.

Spoil Your Senses (Pt.2)

Here are the 25 ways to spoil your senses. Try one or more each day in order to create more happiness in your life. Some sights, sounds, tastes, smells and sensations are universally known to make people feel good. Other ways to stimulate your senses do exist although these will be more specific to your individual preferences. 

Looking at a beautiful sight such as this can reduce anxiety and improve the mood. 

SIGHT

  • Take time to enjoy a sunset or sunrise..and the colourful sky that comes with it. The same happy emotions can be generated by looking at other sights from nature like; flowers, a rainbow or freshly fallen snow. 
  • Images of kittens and puppies and other baby animals.
  • Men and women that you find attractive.
  • Look at anything that is your favourite colour. If you do not have a favourite colour, try looking at calming colours like pastels, cool colours (blue and purple) or a colour that you associate with a happy memory.
  • Keep your home tidy and free of clutter. Spaces with too many closely placed pieces of furnture or walls with dozens of pictures can be visually overwhelming. Opt for minimalist and simple for the most calming results. 
Certain sounds and songs can trigger happy memories. For more information on the relationship between music and memory click HERE. 

HEARING

  • Listen to the sounds of nature; waves, the wind, rain falling, or birds.
  • Listen to instrumental music.
  • Listen to songs with harmonizing singers. 
  • Listen to a guided meditation. 
  • Listen to music or a song with which you have a positive association or memory.

TOUCH

  • Use a heating pad or icy-cold products on sore muscles and joints.
  • Take a warm bath to relax, even if you do not have sore muscles. 
  • wear something very soft – Marino wool, cashmere or silk. Put satin sheets on your bed. 
  • Squish moon sand between your fingers or use a stress ball. 
  • Treat yourself to a therapeutic massage.

SMELL

Can you imagine the smell of this fresh hot pizza!
  • Bake cookies or other baked goods. They will fill the kitchen and the entire house with sinful scents. 
  • Spray some of your favourite cologne or perfume on your sleeve. 
  • The smell of fresh ground coffee calms the nerves. 
  • Essential oils and a defuser  – Use a favourite scent or a scent that promotes calm and reduced anxiety. Some calming options include; orange, lavender and peppermint.  
  • Smell something that is associated with a happy memory. Click HERE for an article that discusses the link between smell and memory. 

TASTE

  • Favourite food. The flavour of your favourite food can release happy chemicals in your brain. 
  • The sheer taste of coffee can stimulate the parts of your brain that make you feel energetic and awake. 
  • Comfort foods help to calm the frazzled nerves. Each person has their own comfort food. It may or may not be associated with something that was served to you when you were young, by an adult who cared. 
  • There are certain tastes that are associated with happy memories, perhaps a food item served at one’s wedding. 
  • Spoil your senses with a food that has a very intense flavour. If you like chocolate, try something with double chocolate. If you like salty foods, go for something very salty like olives, parmigiana cheese or anchovies. 

It is time for the weekly challenge!

How would you describe this delicious steak dinner? Use all 5 sense. 

The Challenge

Use all 5 senses to describe what you see in the photo of a steak dinner. 

Enter the challnge by:

  • commenting on this post
  • leave a comment on the challenge post in the “Eh! Be Positive” facebook group 
  • Email us at ehbepositive@gmail.com
  • Send us a tweet using handle @spensierimethod and #weeklyhappychallenge

Have a great Week and 

Eh! Be Positive!!