By Lori Spensieri
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By Lori Spensieri, January 15, 2019
Hey Positive Peeps! So it is 2019. We are three weeks in. Are you a resolution maker? More importantly, are you a resolution keeper? Here at Eh! Be Positive we are big believers of bringing out the best version of “You”. The only standard that you should set should be based on personal improvement and personal betterment. If you are where you want to then change may not necessary. Ask yourself; Am I where I want to be?
Why Do you Tend to Break your Resolutions?
I was perusing Facebook on January 2nd and I came across a post. It said, “Welcome back to all the people who quit Facebook as their new year resolution.” There are two messages in one here. The simple surface message states that Facebook is addictive and it is difficult to quit. It is the deeper meaning that struck me. The alternative message that the post was less likely to be trying to communicate, is that people, in general, are not usually able to keep their resolutions. This is sadly true. Do not fret though. We have a plan for you. Your plan will be to set some goals, some smart goals. See the schematic below.
New year’s resolutions are similar to goals, but there is a major difference. Whereas a resolution is a promise and is more permanent, a goal is something that one aims to accomplish, and once it has been achieved, a new goal can be created.
Anyone who has made a goal in the past and then accomplished it knows about the rewards of perseverance, motivation and a strong will. All of the listed qualities are necessary. When the goal is achieved, there is a celebration and a sense of pride is felt by the goal-achiever. According to David Galloway in his article “Differentiate between goals and resolutions to aid in Personal Achievement”, the key is to know which changes (you make) in your life should be (considered) attainable goals and which should be (considered) permanent resolutions.
Resolutions vs. Goals
Resolutions are different in that they require more perseverance and
they don’t get “achieved” or “accomplished” and then forgotten. They
introduce a gradual change which is probably harder to observe on a
daily basis. Resolutions are harder to keep because there is no “defining moment” in which you can say that you have won or achieved that goal, but after a month or two, you will feel happier, healthier and proud of yourself for not quitting!
Some Reasonable Resolutions…
We have come up with a list of healthy resolutions (that can be associated with goals that you can set for yourself). These resolutions are meant to be somewhat easier to maintain.
1. Eat healthier (similar to lose weight). What you want to do is go back to basics. Create one “cheat day” and try to eat relatively healthily the rest of the time. Drink 4 bottles of water per day. Eat fruit and veggies every day. Keep it simple. You can do this! Cut out one “bad food” like french fries or fried food.
2. Exercise more (similar to lose weight). Get more exercise by adding it to your daily schedule. Park further away from the mall or get off the bus 2 stops early and walk. Use your smartphone’s app to track your steps. You should aim for 10 000 steps per day. Use the stairs if you usually use the elevator to go up two or three flights. Take a walk at lunchtime. You will also sleep better at night and have less stress if you move more.
Reduce that Bad Habit!
3. Reduce smoking frequency (similar to quit smoking). The ultimate goal, of course, is to quit smoking. However, after some research, I realized that only about 5 percent of people who quit cold turkey actually kick the habit permanently. The gradual cessation of nicotine in the body reduces the stress and the anxiety and improves the odds to 10% (and higher with other aids like the patch or gum). Quitting is VERY difficult, but reducing is much easier.
4. Volunteer. Do you want to feel good about yourself and make a difference? Start with volunteering. Find an organization that works with your schedule. You could pet animals at a shelter, spend time with elderly people at a home, read books to sick kids, shovel snow for the senior couple down the street or spend time at a food bank sorting. Whatever you choose to do, it will definitely have a positive impact on the world and on you!
5. Save money. Stress and money seem to go hand in hand. Start a modest savings plan in January. Open an account with Tangerine (used to be ING Direct) or with your bank that automatically withdraws money weekly, biweekly or monthly, and by the end of the year, you will have a little extra money. In addition, save money for Christmas or other seasonal spending starting in January. It’s never too early to start saving.
Check out this article. Click here to find 100 ways to save money.
These are my resolutions. What are yours?
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Good luck and eh, be positive!
Well, it’s a new year. It is the perfect time to start something new,
something that could change your life for the better, something fun and inspiring. Studies show that it takes 14 days of doing a habit to make that behaviour become automatic.
Why not start now?
Why not make a commitment to yourself to be happier?
What do you have to lose?
How Can I Be Happier?
We are Cara and Lori Spensieri. We are called “Eh, Be Positive!” and we have created a system called The Spensieri Method for creating and maintaining positivity and happiness in your life. If followed for thirty days, this system will help you feel more optimistic, confident and happier. More information about the book, “30 Days to a Happier You” can be found by clicking here.
We are not medical doctors and we do not claim that this is some magical spell that will automatically make you happier. We want you to make a promise to yourself that you will try to feel better and that you will put forth an honest effort for the challenges presented each day.
Try to actively follow the steps of each daily performance task.
Of course, if you feel extremely sad for longer than a couple of weeks, you should talk to someone you trust and tell him or her how you feel.
What is Happiness to You?
The first step in the Spensieri Method (and first chapter in the book “30 Days to a Happier You”) is called “What is happiness to you?” All you have to do is write down as fast as you can 10 things that make you happy. It does not matter if they are silly or ridiculous.
Write down 10 things that make you happy. Just be honest and true to yourself. Try to avoid putting money as the first thing on the list. Here is Cara’s list:
- My little boy
- My Family (especially Lori)
- My Students
- A Delicious Meal
- Drinking coffee
- Giving to charity
- Watching a funny television show (like Big Bang Theory)
- When my nieces and nephews yell, “CARA!” when I arrive
- Thoughts of my Nonna
- Achieving a goal
My list is not in any particular order. All you have to do is brainstorm and free-write a list for yourself. It will give you some insight into what floats your boat, what simple things make you feel happy. Here is Lori’s list:
- My family, and children
- My students
- Helping others
- Learning new things
- Making a big meal that everyone enjoys
- Holiday: Christmas, birthdays, Valentines day
- Love – Click here for our post all about love.
- being strong and independent
- being financially free
This list is your challenge. When you are finished your list, you can enter our “Happiness challenge” by posting your list in the comments section or you can post it on our Facebook Page.
Thank you for reading and eh, be positive!
For another great article about keeping your resolutions, click here.